Online: Giving Up All Hope of a Better Past – Tools for Forgiving Ourselves and Others

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Online: Giving Up All Hope of a Better Past: Tools for Forgiving Ourselves and Others
with Bodhipaksa
Wednesdays, October 6th – October 27th, 2021 | 7:00pm – 8:30pm ET

Resentment—which includes shame, and self-hatred—is common and intensely painful. It’s also very hard to escape from, because something in us believes, despite all the harm it causes, that resentment can protect us from harm. In the end we forgive not in order to excuse wrongs committed in the past, but so that we don’t poison our lives in the present.

On each of the four evenings of this course, Bodhipaksa will explore one of the myths that bind us to resentment and keep us mired in the suffering it causes. He will also offer tools and perspectives for finding our way to peace and forgiveness.

• We’ll explore the Myth of Perfection, and learn how to be more at peace with our flaws, our vulnerability, and our imperfect nature.
• We’ll explore the Myth of Free Will, and see how accepting the conditioned nature of being human can help free us from blame and self-blame.
• We’ll explore the Myth of the Self, and learn how we can focus on behaviors rather than beings, so that we can be less judgmental and more compassionate and tolerant.
• We’ll explore the Myth of Punishment—the idea that punishing ourselves or others is a viable way to bring about change—and learn the powerfully transformative tools of compassion and self-compassion.

Seeing through these myths and embracing these liberating tools and perspectives can help us move on from the pain and aversion of the past and instead live with joy and love in the present moment.


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Bodhipaksa is a teacher of meditation and Buddhism, known for his accessible and down-to-earth approach to practice. Born in Scotland, he now lives in New Hampshire and has two children. He’s the author of several books, including “Wildmind: A Step-By-Step Guide to Meditation,” “Living as a River,” “I Can’t Believe It’s Not Buddha,” and “This Difficult Thing of Being Human.” He is also the author of many guided meditation CDs and audiobooks, and is the founder of Wildmind (, a prominent online meditation center.

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