The Power of “No”: On Self-Love, Setting Boundaries, and Difficult Conversations

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The Power of “No”: On Self-Love, Setting Boundaries, and Difficult Conversations
with Ralph De La Rosa
Saturday, February 1st, 2020 | 10:00am – 5:00pm

“‘No’ is golden. ‘No’ is the kind of power the good witch wields. It’s the way whole, healthy, emotionally evolved people manage to have relationships with jackasses while limiting the amount of jackass in their lives.” -Cheryl Strayed

Generosity of heart can make it difficult to see the line between compassion and codependency. Saying “no;” disappointing others; communicating boundaries; and working with the guilt, shame, fear, and anger that’s often involved – these can be tough arenas for those of us who live to give. Yet, living authentically necessarily means we will need to make unpopular choices sometimes. In order for our compassion to be sustainable, we ourselves must be included in it, too.

Our patterns and difficulties in this area have the roots in deeper emotional experiences we’ve internalized. Learning to set limits is an integral aspect of healing self-work, trauma recovery, and self-love. Integrating the wisdom of Buddhism with trauma theory; somatic psychology; and the evidence-based “parts work” of Internal Family Systems therapy; this daylong is about learning to navigate such vulnerable conditions with clarity, intelligence, and grace.

The day will include periods of guided meditation and breathwork, lively talks and discussions/Q&A, and dyadic exercises. You will also receive a handout of printed materials. Please bring pen and paper.


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Registration Fees include Teacher Support

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Ralph De La Rosa, LCSW

Ralph De La Rosa is an internationally published author, trauma-focused psychotherapist, and seasoned meditation teacher. His new book, Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs is available wherever books are sold. Ralph began practicing meditation in 1996 and has taught since 2008.

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